Flirting vs. Cruising The millennium has arrived and now is the time to learn the art of flirting.  Some of us are experts at cruising and picking up guys for one night stands, but aren't we all looking for something that will bring us to the alter with Mr. Heavenly?  Flirting will be the vehicle that will get us on the dating track. 10 Flirting Tips DO: DON'T: 1. Notice Something about the guy or what he's doing and comment on it.  If you're interested in a guy at the beach who's wearing sunglasses, tell him you like the glasses and ask where he got them.  You've started the conversation. 1. Start with bad or dishonest intentions.  Be honest with yourself about what you really what from the interaction. 2. Have the next question ready before you ask the first.  In fact, have four or five questions ready. 2. Lead off with a question that contains a built-in negative judgment.  Don't ask a man you meet in a bar, "Do you come here a lot"? 3. Open with, "I've never been here before...or other lines that allude to your shyness.  They are often good starters because they make you less threatening. 3. Approach with a zinger: "Hey, I haven't seen you here at the gym in a long time." 4. After talking for a few moments, try to take the conversation to the next level - above small talk, slightly personal.  Buy pay close attention to his nonverbal communication.  Is his body posture open to you, or has he withdrawn or turned away during the conversation?   4. Use sexual innuendo or worse: "What are you into? Top or Bottom?"  Avoid crossing the obundary from "I want to know him" to " I want to fuck him" 5. Answer rejection with a four-letter word: next! 5. Touch him prematurely. Ask Jim a Question!